The truth is, a lot of people get angry from time to time. If you’re always yelling at small things, or you can’t control your emotions on a regular basis, you might need to get help with anger management. A therapist might be able to help you with these anger management books, but they could also be the start of your journey, too.
Here are of the best books on how to control your anger:
Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions, by Aaron Karmin, LCPC
This workbook by Aaron Karmin, a clinical therapist, helps you find the source of your anger. It’s very modern and easy to use. It’s important to practice positive things that will help you be in charge of your emotions so you can be more confident and respect yourself. It gives examples of clinical ways to deal with anger, and it shows how to express your anger in a way that is good for you.
The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, by Harriet Lerner, PhD
Dr. Lerner says that anger isn’t just something to ignore. It’s there for a reason and is a sign that something needs to be done. In close relationships, it can be a source of annoyance and make women want to keep quiet so as not to make things worse.
When both men and women learn how to express their anger in healthy ways and find out what caused them to be angry, they will be able to have more emotional intimacy in their relationships.
Mindfulness for Anger Management: Transformative Skills for Overcoming Anger and Managing Powerful Emotions, by Stephen Dansiger PsyD, MFT
It can be very useful for mental health in a lot of different ways, so we talk a lot about it here. People who read Dr. Dansiger’s book are asked to look inside themselves to find the source of their anger in real-life situations, like at home and at work. Self-reflective activities, practical advice, and a better understanding of what happens to our bodies when we’re angry are some of the things in a book that came out of this.
Rage: A Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming Explosive Anger, by Ronald Potter-Efron MSW, Ph.D.
Anger can be broken down into four different types, and each one needs to be dealt with in a different way. If someone is feeling hopeless, they might get impotence rage, or shame rage, when they feel very disrespected. Dr. Potter-Efron gives practical advice on how to change, but he also understands that anger is a personal responsibility to deal with for the safety of others.
Letting Go of Anger: The Eleven Most Common Anger Styles & What to Do About Them, by Ronald Potter-Efron MSW, Ph.D., & Patricia Potter-Efron, MS
First, figure out what kind of anger you’re feeling. Then figure out how to deal with it. The Potter-Efrons agree that some of these styles are appropriate, but not all of them, and this can cause a lot of problems if it isn’t fixed.
This book gives examples of different types of anger and how to deal with them in healthy, flexible ways.
The Anger Workbook: An Interactive Guide to Anger Management, by Les Carter, Ph.D., & Frank Minirth, M.D
Anger can be shown in many different ways, which is why we think it’s important to know how to deal with it. Identifying anger, letting go of ideas of defeat or weakness, and living more in control of your emotions are some of the things this workbook can help you do.
Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men, by Thomas J. Harbin, Ph.D.
Men tend to process emotions in a different way than women do, and Dr. Harbin’s book is here to help men deal with difficult emotions and understand how they impact the world around them. Explosive, aggressive anger can hurt relationships and make it hard to do your job. This book, written for men who have problems with anger, gives simple ways for men to understand their anger and learn how to deal with it in a healthy way.
The Anger Trap: Free Yourself from the Frustrations that Sabotage Your Life, by Les Carter
Angry people don’t just have bad tempers and loud voices; they can be an annoyance, be critical too much, or be angry. When you learn how to recognize healthy and unhealthy ways of expressing anger, it can help you have a better emotional life, too. In his clinical and spiritual experience, Dr. Carter can help you live your life to the fullest and not be held back by your anger.
Never Get Angry Again: The Foolproof Way to Stay Calm and in Control in Any Conversation or Situation, by David Lieberman, Ph.D.
In the past, you may have had trouble with treatment for anger problems. If that’s the case, maybe it’s time for a change of scenery. I changed my mind.
Dr. Lieberman wants people to think about how changing their perspective might be better than trying to “calm down.” In his book, he says it’s easier to not get angry in the first place than to calm down after a fight.
Angry All the Time: An Emergency Guide to Anger Control, by Ronald T. Potter-Efron
The first thing you should do if you’re someone who has lost a lot of things because of their anger is read this book. Step-by-step, anger expert Ronald T. Potter-Efron tells you how to avoid things that make you angry, find out what’s behind your anger, and ask for what you need without getting angry.
Anger Management for Everyone: Ten Proven Strategies to Help You Control Anger and Live a Happier Life, by Raymond Chip Tafrate, Ph.D., and Howard Kassinove, Ph.D.
We all get angry from time to time, but there’s a big difference between occasional frustrations and anger that hurts relationships or interferes with your daily life. Two doctors work together to show you how to use anger-reduction techniques in real-life situations to keep yourself from getting angry all the time.
The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Anger: A Step-by-Step Program for Success, by William J. Knaus, EdD
Cognitive-behavioral therapy and rational emotive behavior therapy are used in this workbook to give people the tools they need to deal with their anger. There are dangerous anger traps that can keep you from living a healthy, less angry life, and this book wants to help you get out of them.
How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: Effective strategies for stressed-out parents, by Carla Naumburg, Ph.D.
Raising kids can be a difficult task at times. But if you’re always snapping, screaming, or losing your temper with your kids, you might need to take a break. A clinical social worker named Carla Naumburg wants you to know you’re not a bad parent, and she wants you to know that. You most likely are overworked and stressed out. When you have problems, her book can help you figure out how to move forward and still take care of yourself.
The Anger Workbook for Women: How to Keep Your Anger from Undermining Your Self-Esteem, Your Emotional Balance, and Your Relationships, by Laura J. Petracek, Ph.D.
Many books on anger management are written for men, and the “angry guy” is usually the subject of more attention in the world of anger management. This book is for women, and it talks about how women tend to show their anger in unique ways. Learn how to control your anger through exercises and how to deal with situations that could make you angry.
Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences, by W. Robert Nay, Ph.D.
Relationships need a lot of communication, and when one person is angry, resentful, or unhappy, taking it out on their partner can be very bad. People who have anger problems, even if they have the same problems as their partner, can use this guidebook to fix the damage it caused.