Top 25 Books About Bdsm Updated 04 /2024

Whether or not Fifty Shades of Grey made you want to read BDSM, it's clear that the world of bondage, discipline, dominance, and submission is a hot place to read. The problem, of course, is that many people who live this way didn't like the story of Christian and Ana at all.

In spite of the fact that there were some hot scenes, there was a lot more going on than Mr. Grey's "red room of pain."

We've found the best of the best, from addictive TV shows about BDSM bonds to helpful how-to guides. If you want to play a dom or sub, or if you just want a sexy story to make your dreams come true, these are some must-read page-turners to get you going:

Bared To You by Sylvia Day

Those who love Fifty Shades of Grey should read Bared to You by Sylvia Day now. In both books, there are a lot of things in common. Gideon is a damaged, powerful billionaire who falls in love with a shy, damaged woman named Eva. They start a BDSM relationship together.

Is the first book your favorite? You're in luck because there are five more books in the Crossfire series. Crossfire talks more about how different types of relationships can be good or bad for couples based on things like their past trauma and how they communicate. This is something that Christian and Ana's story didn't have.

BDSM Basics for Beginners by Michelle Fegatofi

If you're looking for a simple book to help you learn about BDSM, look no further than this one. By Michelle Fegatofi, this book is the best way to get started if you want to learn about the lifestyle and what it's like. You'll also learn about different types of relationships and what their roles are.

If you have any experience, this book is probably not for you. But if you're looking for a good place to start, Fegatofi's guide is a great place to start. You'll be in good hands, because she has been a submissive for more than 20 years now.

The Sleeping Beauty trilogy by A.N. Roquelaure (aka Anne Rice)

if you're a fan of Anne Rice's gothic fiction and erotic literature, be warned: In the The Sleeping Beauty trilogy, the author takes explicit sex to a whole new level (written under the pseudonym A. N. Roquelaure). Back in the 1980s, this story was first shown. It's about Beauty, who is awakened from her famous sleep with more than just a kiss.

They follow her through a life of submission and some pretty extreme BDSM in the book. This is how it works: In 2015, Rice came out with a fourth book in the series called Beauty's Kingdom. This one is a little less graphic and a little more focused on the story. It's important to read this if you're a fan of the Disney story, because your view of this character is going to change big time.

The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton

People were amazed when the first copies of the Topping Book and the Bottoming Book came out in the early 1990s. Hardy and Easton went into great lengths to describe what it was like to be in a BDSM relationship and what to think about. The "new" editions are both guidebooks and anecdotal reads. They go more in depth on both sides of the spectrum, giving readers a place to ask questions and find comfort.

They say that whether you're a top or a bottom, these books are a good place to start if you want to get into BDSM relationships.

Haven by Rebekah Witherspoon

Ready for a book that talks about how BDSM can both arouse and heal? Instead of a powerful, clean-shaven billionaire, the main character is a nature photographer who spends most of his time alone with his dog. As soon as Claudia comes to his door after a tragedy, things start to get sweet and spicy.

Witherspoon's Beards & Bondage trilogy completely changes what it means to be in a dom/sub relationship by showing different characters and relationships in each one. To give you an idea, book two is about a dominatrix and a male submissive, and book three is about a polyamorous relationship. This series has something for everyone.

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller and Molly Devon

As long as you like to look at things and get a little help along the way, you're in luck: Screw the roses. Send Me the Thorns has everything you need: photos and drawings, glossaries of terms, a list of clubs and stores, and more.

Humor is used throughout the book to make the idea of getting into a BDSM dynamic less intimidating. You'll even find yourself laughing as you learn about important things like negotiation, endorphins, and safety. The important information is there, but it reads more like a conversation you'd have over drinks than a textbook you have to read through.

The Boss Series by Abigail Barnette (Jenny Trout)

Imagine having an earth-shattering, mind-bending one-night stand with someone in the past, only to end up working for him years down the road. Sophie has to decide whether or not she can put the hot sex behind her and be "professional." She found out that her no-strings-attached hookup is now in charge of her work. In the movie, it's very hard.

 

When you read Jenny Trout's series, you'll feel like you've been seen for the first time. There are eight books in all, so it's easier to read them all at the beach.

Dom's Guide to BDSM by Matthew Larocco

Doms or people who want to be in charge should read this guide. It tells you how to do that. The best BDSM how-to book on Amazon is written by Matthew Larocco, so it's clear he can help you. As the title suggests, this guide is not a general one that covers all the basics. Instead, it focuses on a dom/role. dominatrix's

Not only will it show you how to give and get pleasure, but it will also show you how to reframe your thoughts, care for your sub, and make sure you become a safe, compassionate, and respectful master. This book will show you how. If you don't know where to start but want to become a less troublesome person, here are some ideas. The Dom's Guide To BDSM will get you there. If you like Larocco's style, he has a lot of guides on how to be a good sub and how to keep a healthy BDSM relationship.

The Fettered Series by Lilia Moon

Doms and wedding planners might not seem like the best of friends, but the first book in Lila Moon's Fettered series somehow makes them work together in a very interesting way. BDSM owner Damon and Emily, the most popular wedding planner in Seattle, get to know each other, and they start having a lot of fun together at the wedding.

The first book in Fettered is called YIELD, and if you're tired of being the one who holds everything together, you'll love it. You can read more about Fettered here. There are seven total books in the series that focus on different, overlapping characters. With each new book, you'll learn about new relationships and dynamics, so you'll never get bored.

The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance by Mistress Lorelei

It's a good place to start for dominant women who want to learn more about BDSM with their submissive partners. You can use this guide to clear up any confusion you might have about taking on a new, more powerful role in your relationship. It was written by someone who is already dominant.

Mistress Lorelei's book is full of tips, facts, and suggestions for women who want to be dominatrixes. Because sexual expression isn't one size fits all, this book has helped many people become their best selves as dominatrixes.

Push The Button by Feminista Jones

Most BDSM reads that are erotic focus on the sensual side of things, but Feminista Jones's Push The Button adds in a little bit of truth. People who don't know about Nicole and David think they're just normal, professional Black Americans who fight for what they want and achieve it. When they're not in public, however, they have a dom/sub relationship that focuses on different types of pain or pleasure, fantasy, and dark things that they talk about.

During Nicole's former master's return, readers can see the difference between a healthy and unhealthy dom/sub relationship, which is what makes this book so interesting to read! In addition to the sex, Jones' book shows the couple's everyday lives and normalizes BDSM relationships in a way that isn't typical in the genre.

The Dominance Playbook: Ways to Play With Power in Scenes and Relationships by Anton Fulmen

This guide is for people who already know some basics about BDSM but want to step things up a bit. It's what the master wants. It's for people who want to come up with new scene ideas and power dynamics, as the name says. Useful information about how to "weave power exchange into the fabric of a long-term relationship" can be found in this guide.

For more basic information, you can get Fulmen's first book called "The Heart of Dominance." You can read it to learn the basics and get a sense of the psychological and physical details of BDSM bonds, or you can read it on your own.

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