Is it hard to get along with people you care about? If so, you aren’t the only one. People are afraid of communication, whether it is written or oral.
As powerful or smart as some people seem, many have doubts about how they write or speak in front of other people. But having good communication skills is important for both the person and the company. Companies, on the other hand, are better off when they have a clear message and communications plan that shows who they are in the world, what they want to be known for, and what makes them unique. Executives who can get people to do what they want with their words are also very well-liked.
When we think about skills, we often think about the hard skills. Being able to communicate well is one of the most important soft skills you can learn. It is also a big factor in how well you do at your job and how well you do at school. When you think about your lawyer or accountant or sitter or your child’s teacher, think about how they help you and your family. How well these people communicate affects how you feel about them and how much you trust them.
Communications may be able to make or break a company or a leader, says one person. It’s good that there are a lot of resources that can help you improve in this area. There are a lot of books about how you write, how you speak, how you communicate with your family and friends, and how you use communications to fight for things that are important to you.
There is a lot to learn from the books, even if you are a born communicator or if you are an introvert or an extrovert. Whether you are having trouble finding your voice in personal or professional relationships or if you are having trouble setting the right boundaries at work and home, these tips will help you get your voice out there. I have broken the list into books that are mostly about how to communicate at work, and books that can help you communicate and be social at work and at home.
Books on Communicating at Work
Never Eat Alone
You should never eat alone. It’s one of my favorite books. Author Keith Ferrazi talks about how important it is to build mutually beneficial relationships, and he makes a strong case for how those relationships can help you achieve great things.
I am an introvert and an extrovert, so the book is a reminder to be careful when I build relationships with people I don’t know well. The people with whom I already have a relationship make it easy for me to rely on them, but expanding one’s circle is not only a good idea, it’s also very important for one’s career and professional growth.
When Ferrazi tells you what to do, he also walks you through “how to do it.” This is what I like best about the book. There are a lot of practical ways to build relationships, as well as powerful stories about how doing so can change your own life.
On Becoming Fearless
Ariana Huffington’s “On Becoming Fearless” was also a big help. She talks about everything from how to be fearless at work to how to be passionate about your own job.
Many of us have to deal with fear in our lives at some point. When we are afraid, we don’t reach for our dreams, don’t speak our truth, or stay in bad situations.
Readers will learn how to deal with and overcome their fears from Huffington’s own experiences.
Extraordinary PR, Ordinary Budget: A Strategy Guide
If you want to learn how to get your work and ideas out there, my book is a great place to start.
The book talks about real social justice campaigns and how I and my team made sure important issues were on the minds of journalists. The book also talks about how to build relationships with journalists, who can have a big impact on how the world, and your audience, sees you and your work.
How to Win Friends and Influence People
The book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” was written by Dale Carnegie in 1936, but it’s still a great read today! This book has sold a lot.
The book talks about how to build and keep strong relationships. In order for you to be a success, you need to be in good relationships with people and have good relationships with people.
They include things like appealing to your colleague’s interests instead of focusing on your own, remembering the names of people you work with, and learning how to listen again, which he talks about.
Carnegie talks about the power of being genuinely interested in other people, which is very important. In the book, it’s said that if people like you and believe that you like them, they will follow your advice. They will not follow you just because you are in charge or have a high rank in an organization.
If you read this book, you’ll find a lot of good ideas for communicating with other people. It deserves its own article. This is a book you should buy today. It is really that good.
Words that Work
It was Frank Luntz’s “Words that Work” that I read last. 🙂 Luntz says that people see what you say through the lens of their own lives.
The most important thing about communication is what people hear, not what you say. If you don’t want to say the wrong thing or have your message be misunderstood, you should think about what people are likely to hear. These words can be very upsetting to people in certain groups, which is why they can be very upsetting.
It doesn’t matter what you say after you use words that are triggering or have a lot of meaning. Your audience will get stuck and not be able to understand your whole message.
People who care about communication and whose jobs depend on good communication should read this book again.
The truth, especially the truth that isn’t asked for, isn’t always welcome in this world. To be honest, it takes a lot of courage.
In my job, I’m often asked to give feedback when people I work with appear in the media. The more coaching and feedback a person gets, the more likely they are to improve, but that doesn’t mean it will be easier for them to tell the truth.
Even when commentators or even politicians speak the truth, people can be very angry with them. However, no relationship can work unless both people have the freedom and space to tell the truth in love.
“Crucial Conversations” is a guide for having hard but important talks at work and at home. “Crucial Conversations” is a must-read if you want to improve your social skills or talk about unpleasant things. Because most of us are told not to tell the truth, training in this area is good.
Leadership Presence, by Belle, is what I’m going to say. Linda Halpern and Kathy Lubar are a great pair. This is a great show. I learned about this book 10 years ago when I was in an executive coaching meeting. I was having a hard time learning how to build gravitas and how to communicate while having a lot of power.
This was one of the books my coach, Sheryl Phillips, told me to read, and I read it. What I found most interesting about this book was how important nonverbals are in communication and how it gives advice on how to become a better leader.
Books on Communicating at Home
The Power of Now
Tolle’s “The Power of Now” changed my life. Here, he talks about how to stay present with your thoughts and the things that are happening right now.
Some things that have happened in the past or could happen in the future made me react in a way I didn’t want to be. Such thoughts are a major cause of internal pain. We can’t fully be present in the lives of our family and friends because of them.
For this reason, I think The Power of Now is one of the best books ever written.
Five Love Languages
In the same way that God made us, we are all made. We show our love and God’s image in different ways.
In Gary Chapman’s book, “The Five Love Languages,” he talks about how important it is to know not only your own love language, but also your family and friends’ love languages. Words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch are the five love languages that the book says are the best ways to show someone you love them.
There are two ways I show love to my partner. One is by spending quality time together and the other is by doing things for them. If someone wants to show me that they love me, they should spend time with me and do things for me. On the other hand, my sister is a person who likes to spend her time. She gets excited when I spend time with her and her family. When I have tried to give gifts instead of time, our relationship has been hurt. In order to show her how much I love her, I should give her all of my time. In this case, it means the time when I’m not doing other things like playing on my cell phone, working, or being present but not doing anything else.
A healthy relationship at work or home can’t happen unless you know what people around you need to feel important and valued. For this reason, I think you should read The Five Love Languages.
Henry Cloud’s “Boundaries” is a relationship book that has been around for years. It is important because boundaries tell people how they should and should not act in your life.
For people who have been abused as a child, it can be hard to know when their boundaries have been crossed. In fact, you can’t keep yourself safe and tell people how they can show up in your life without setting up guardrails.
Angry people are often a sign that a boundary has been crossed. My boundaries aren’t always clear when I’ve peeled back the onion.
The Four Agreements
Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, “The Four Agreements,” is a must-read for anyone who wants to learn more about relationships and get them back on track. It is also important for people who want to stop the pain caused by rumination.
There are four agreements: 1. Don’t take anything personally, 2. Always keep your word; 3. Don’t make assumptions; and 4. Always do your best. In addition to the book, the teachings are also available in a small deck of cards that can be used every day.