Top 16 Books About Divorce Updated 04 /2024

It's going to happen a lot during the process of divorce. A lot of new things are going to start coming to you. Intense emotions flood in, new ways of communicating become important, and your time is now spent in a different way than before.

People who work in the field call the divorce process a journey, and it is just that: a long journey through the depths of your being, moving toward redefining your priorities for the next chapter of your life.

When you're going through the process or journey of divorce, you'll likely start gathering information to help you. In terms of your reading list, there are many books that will help you learn about yourself and heal.

Many of the books I'm going to recommend were written a long time ago, but they still have a lot to say about how to live and think. Some books don't even talk about divorce at all. Instead, they talk about healthy relationships and healing energies for a happy and healthy future.

Following is a list of 10 books that cover a wide range of divorce and non-divorce topics. These books will help you get on the road to healing.

As you go through this process of exploring a new reality for yourself and your children, my goal is to ensure you are as prepared as possible for the next great relationship that will come into your life, however, and whenever that happens. It's time to pick up the pen and start writing the next chapter of your life.

You can start here:

Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

by Katharine Woodward Thomas

People who want to break up can use Woodward's five-step guide to think about it in a whole new way. This book is filled with practical advice, heartfelt stories, and concrete steps for healing.

In this book, parents who are going through a divorce can start building healthy two-address homes for their kids on the way to having a happy life. These principles will help you see the true path to avoiding that bitter end in favor of both people having a good time and making money.

This guide doesn't matter if your ex-spouse isn't even following it at all. Take the high road and learn what's possible.

A Fresh Start – 111 Affirmations to Make This the Best Year Ever and Create the Life you Want

by Karen Carrington

It will make you want to meet Carrington for a cup of coffee so you can share her love and laughter as she helps you figure out how to move forward in the next chapter.

Laugh and cry! Her book will help you think about what's important in your own life as you start over. What I love the most about this book is the call to be passionately aware of yourself as you go through divorce recovery, which I think is a great idea.

Why People Don’t Heal And How They Can

by Caroline Myss

While this book has been around for more than 30 years, what I like most about this book is that it has real-world data about how to heal.

Myss looks at the development of the human mind on a global level, giving insights into all kinds of healing practices both inside and outside of divorce. This book isn't about divorce, but people who have been through one will find a proven way to heal.

Healing After Loss

by Martha W. Hickman

This little book has 365 daily meditations and intentions for people who are going through grief. They can use them to help them. Most people are sad when a marriage ends, no matter how long it was.

You can start a daily practice of being aware of the things that have happened in your life and how to move gracefully through them here.

 

When you use this daily meditation book with your daily journal, you can start to go deeper into the healing process on a deeper level than you have ever done before.

Transcending Divorce: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart

by Alan D. Wolfelt

As a guide to getting through divorce, Wolfelt's book is a must-read for anyone who wants to integrate their divorce experience into their lives, even if they don't want to do so. Even if you don't want to. Many people have to deal with a divorce that they don't want.

This book has ten touchstones with next steps to help you come to terms with the situation and move on from it. The Touchstone Five: "Recognize You Are Not Crazy" is my favorite one.

This book talks about a wide range of divorce situations that people can relate to.

The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life

by Lynne Twist

Money is one of the most important things to think about when you and your partner split up. When Twist wrote his book, it wasn't about how to get over divorce. Instead, it was about how to change your relationship with money in general.

I think this book is great for people who have been through a divorce and are struggling financially or are in a state of emotional deficit. Divorce costs women on average 41% less money than it does for men. That's a lot more than twice as much as what men lose.

You will learn that money is energy after reading this book. You will also learn how to get in the flow of abundance around money, no matter what.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

by John Gottman

There has been a lot of research done by the Gottman Institute over the years about relationships. But why are we talking about how to make marriage work in a divorce book? The answer is two-steps.

You might think back and wonder what more you could have done to make things work. People who have studied couples and come up with concrete theories about things like "the four horsemen" should give you this information. You may look back on your previous marriage in a different way now that you know this.

Even though your last marriage didn't work out, you will most likely be in a new relationship at some point. This is because we are biologically wired to connect with other people.

When people get married for the second and third time, the rate of divorce is even worse. Part of the reason is because we're not talking about what makes a marriage work in the first place. This book, or anything else written by John Gottman, is a must for anyone who wants to have a healthy relationship.

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

by Angela Duckworth

In truth, I read Grit when I worked as a marketer in a traditional corporate job. I didn't think about it at all when I was going through my divorce.

A few years ago, while working with clients, I read Duckworth's book on success again as a way to look at divorce through a different lens.

What I remember now is that success in business or in life isn't about luck or talent at all; it's about grit. This is what I learned. All of us need the parts of Grit to help us succeed in the next chapter after we get married again.

The Art of Forgiveness, Lovingkindness & Peace

by Jack Kornfield

This book, which was written in 2002, is a pocket guide to reflections and meditations on forgiveness, love, and peace.

Other books about forgiveness and letting go: The 9 Best Books on Forgiveness

Divorcing people often have to work hard to forgive both their ex-spouse and themselves.

When you start to think about forgiveness, it can be hard. It is a good idea to start by reading this guide. Internal peace is possible again, even if you have been married.

Forgiveness: 5 Steps to Self Forgiveness is a good place to start.

The Game of Life and How to Play It

by Florence Scovel Shinn

Over the years, this book has changed people's lives. It was written almost 100 years ago (yes, in 1925). There are so many people who have never read this book.

As a pioneer, Shinn said that you get what you put in. The book's main idea is that you get back what you put in. The idea of having a lot of energy and living in abundance has been looked at and thought about by more modern authors.

It's still true, though, that this book brings back a sense of nostalgia that I think is healing in unique ways.

Time heals all wounds, but I don't think that's true. I've heard many smart people say that. Time helps us move on from things, but what really helps us is what we do with that time. It's important to think of your divorce as a time for personal growth, introspection, and a new way of looking at the world around you.

You don't have to go through this alone.

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