The books about friendship I like the most are the ones that show how friendships start and grow as adults. Friendships can be simple, or they can be as complicated as any relationship in your family or your relationship with your partner. People don’t talk about the pain of losing friends in literature very much. It doesn’t matter whether it’s because they died or broke up, or even if it’s been a long time since they saw each other. Some of your friends might be your “ride-or-die.” Is there a part of you that still feels like you are the child in the cafeteria, holding the tray and wondering where to sit? I hope there’s a book on this list that you like. A friend you haven’t met yet gave it to you because you like it.
Happiness by Aminatta Forna
Some of the best stories about friendship come from stories about people who aren’t really friends. On a bridge in London, two people who were meeting for the first time were happy when they bumped into each other. As a friendship grows, their lives become even more intertwined with each other. Because they are experts in different academic fields, each of them has a very good sense of what it’s like to lose something.
Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman
If you listen to the Call Your Girlfriend podcast, this book is a good example of how to put friendships on the same level as other relationships that people think are more important. Everyone knows that “relationships take work,” but what does that mean? But have you ever thought about what it looks like to fight for a friendship? That’s what this book is going to make you do.
Lobster Is the Best Medicine: A Collection of Comics About Friendship by Liz Climo
These comics look easy, but they aren’t. They show a part of friendship that isn’t always easy: meeting your friends where they are and giving them what they need right now. A lot of people in Winnie the Pooh land don’t seem to mind that Eeyore can be a real jerk from time to time. There is a chance that Tigger needs to calm down a lot. It’s a great party, and everyone is welcome. Each one of us can work on being as good to our friends as the cute little animals in this book are to theirs.
Serena Singh Flips the Script by Sonya Lalli
If you write books about friendship, you should think about how romance novels tell their stories. That sounds interesting. Here’s a book about that. To show her family that their definition of happiness isn’t the same as hers, Serena Singh is trying to show them that it’s okay for her happiness to be different. It’s one of the relationships that helps her become more self-reliant, but it also means letting people in. She made a new friendship with a coworker.
Homie by Danez Smith
Poems in this book talk about how friendship can be an important lifeline in a world filled with pain. They also talk about what happens when that friendship line is cut off by death. A lot of people have friends who have less gravitational pull, but they still add color to their lives. There’s a lot of sadness and heartbreak, but there’s also a lot of warmth and humor, giving the book a full and well-rounded look at friendship.
Friendship: The Evolution, Biology, and Extraordinary Power of Life’s Fundamental Bond by Lydia Denworth
If you want to learn more about the science of friendship and how people research it, this book is a good place to start. The book talks about the biology and psychology of why friendship is important and how loneliness can be deadly. A lot of the time, it also talks about what friendship looks like for social animals who are not humans. Do you think fish have friends? The answer may surprise you.
The Brilliant Life of Eudora Honeysett by Annie Lyons
Is this the book you need? An irascible old person makes friends with a young person who is happy. If you think that your eyes could use some candy-colored hearts and stars, here you go. Before she met 10-year-old Rose Trewidney, Eudora Honeysett was on her way to the grave. She now wants to go on adventures with Rose and see things in a new way.
The Subtweet by Vivek Shraya
It’s one of the best lines about friendship in the song “Game Shows Touch Our Lives” by the Mountain Goats. “People say friends don’t destroy one another / What do they know about friends?” A whole book might be made out of that one line. It tells the story of two musicians who become friends after one of them covers their song. It’s true that friendships can be as thorny, jealous, and volatile as any other kind of relationship. This book is one of the best of its kind.
Elizabeth and Monty: The Untold Story of Their Intimate Friendship by Charles Casillo
There are so many stories of love and heartbreak in old Hollywood, but there is also a story of friendship that adds another layer to the landscape. This book tells the story of a friendship that lasted through Elizabeth Taylor’s rocky love life and Montgomery Clift’s battles with alcoholism. People become many different people when they live in a very stressful place like Hollywood. Elizabeth and Monty is a well-researched book that lets you see the two actors who were so interesting and well-known together.
The Seven Day Switch By Kelly Harms
Celeste and Wendy are both moms, but as far as they can tell, that’s the only thing they have in common. Other than their dislike for each other, that is. Celeste is a stay-at-home mom who spends her days volunteering and making her life look like something from Pinterest. Other moms don’t like her. It’s hard for Wendy to balance her work and home life because she lives by her minute-to-minute plan.
A little too much sangria at a softball party makes Celeste and Wendy hate each other. They wake up in each other’s bodies in the style of Freaky Friday. Soon, everything they thought they knew about the other person turns on its head. Their lives are going to get a lot more complicated, but they might not be so different after all. What does a book about enemies have to do with being on our list of friends? This book is a heartwarming reminder that we shouldn’t be so quick to judge other women and that we’re all better off when we help each other. It comes in a package that makes you laugh out loud.