This is a problem because the more books about retroactive jealousy there are, the more people will get the help they need to deal with it.
I say this as an author who has written a book about retroactive jealousy.
When I was having problems with retroactive jealousy, I checked out a lot of books that I thought might help.
Some were very good, some were OK, and a lot of them didn’t help at all.
Getting over my condition didn’t start until I realized that I had to stop thinking about it and start taking it in a more real way There are important books that helped me along the way, though. In some ways, this helped me get better faster.
I’ve added those books about retroactive jealousy to the list below. In addition to a few other things that other people who have had retroactive jealousy have told them to do.
So, without further ado, here are the top five retroactive jealousy books that everyone should read:
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
For a reason, the book “Mindfulness” by Eckhart Tolle is a modern-day classic that has sold about a million copies around the world, and not just because it’s easy to read, interesting, and clear.
As I explain in my video course, mindfulness and meditation were a big help for me when I was trying to stop being jealous of people who had passed away before I could. Meditation alone won’t be enough to “cure” your retroactive jealousy, but it’s a very important part of the solution.
You should check out The Power of Now if you want to learn more about mindfulness, meditation, and how to live in the now.
The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts
In the 1950s and 60s, Alan Watts became known as the best Western translator of Zen Buddhism.
He wrote The Wisdom of Insecurity to help Westerners understand Eastern ideas about life, presence, and the illusion of ego better. Fifty years after it was first published, it still inspires people all over the world to live a more peaceful life.
This was a very important book for me when I was trying to get over retroactive jealousy. Other people who used to have RJ have told me that this book was also very important and freeing for them.
Many people have called the book “life-changing” on Amazon, and I won’t argue with them.
Brain Lock by Jeffrey Schwartz
A lot of people have said that this book helped them break free from the cycle of obsessive thinking. I didn’t read this while I was still having RJ. Professor Schwartz is very knowledgeable about OCD, and his methods for overcoming it are now taught in universities all over the world.
If your brain is stuck on “loop,” this book is for you.
Feeling Good by David Burns
One of the best books on overcoming depression, building self-esteem and “retraining” your brain to have a more positive view of life has been written. Nothing else can compare.
Feeling Good is a good book to read if you’re depressed because of your RJ. As far as I can tell there’s only one thing that could be bad about this book. It’s very long, with 736 pages. I’m sure you’ll enjoy this book, though!
Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy by Zachary Stockill
I bet you already knew this one was coming.
Even though this book’s author is me, hundreds of people have told me over the past few years that there is no better book for those who have retroactive jealousy.
I’ve gotten a lot of emails, reviews, and even phone calls from people who say they’re grateful I wrote this book. If you’re jealous because you didn’t get to read it when you did, I think this book will help you.
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
On long-term relationships, this is one of the best books ever written. Perel has been a couples counselor and therapist for a long time. Mating in Captivity is about how to keep the passion alive in a long-term relationship. Great book.
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
At the beginning of seven years ago, I read this book. It started me on the path to becoming better myself. One of the most important books I’ve ever read. This book is great for men who want to become better lovers, own their masculinity, and learn how to show it in healthy ways with their partner and in the world at large. Deida can be a little “woo-woo” at times.
I took a dog-eared copy of this book everywhere I went for many years.
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
One of the best self-help books out there, written in clear and interesting language. As well, it’s full of the wisdom you need to become a better person. Important for me to read.
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie
When you read Dale Carnegie, it’s like spending the day with the most pleasant person. The world’s most helpful grandfather. Passing on knowledge that has been proven to work and lessons that you’ve learned in your own life about how to deal with stress and be more peaceful. A great book.
The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook by Zachary Stockill
Then you’ve got me, ok? And there’s one more self-serving thing to add to this list.
For eleven weeks, the Overcoming Jealousy Workbook gives you writing prompts and journaling exercises to help you deal with and deal with jealousy in relationships.
Cognitive behavioral therapy and cutting-edge psychological research, as well as ancient Buddhist and Stoic philosophy, were used to come up with this book. Workbook: This one is for anyone who has been jealous of someone and wants to quickly get a handle on their problem. You also have to leave behind the hell of jealousy and a desire to own things.
Over a long period of time, I made the Overcoming Jealousy Workbook to be useful for anyone who is jealous today. As long as you’re willing to put in the work, this workbook will help you get over your jealousy. It doesn’t matter if you’re jealous of your partner’s present or past friends, or if you know your jealousy is irrational or you’re not sure.