“The path of genuine love never did flow smooth,” as Shakespeare famously observed. It’s possible that we should be thankful for this, since it would have been impossible to write so many lovely novels on the numerous ways that love may develop if it weren’t for this. Here are nine books that are worth your time…
The Course of Love by Alain de Botton
This book was highly recommended to me before I even picked it up. It sounded gloomy when someone said it was a “very realistic” picture of a relationship. I don’t need to read anything to obtain a dosage of reality; I can acquire it simply by being. I had no idea how incorrect I had been. Since then I’ve re-read the book. Realistic, but it also depicts the dreams, anxieties, doubts, and longings that we all believe are unique to ourselves. This is a stunning book.
Heartburn by Nora Ephron
Have you ever been the victim of someone else’s misdeeds? Rachel Samstat, a cookbook author who is seven months pregnant and just found that her husband is cheating on her, understands what you’re going through. A tragic scenario is made light of in this book, which is based on genuine events in Ephron’s life. Recipes are sprinkled throughout the book as an added bonus.
What I Know for Sure by Oprah Winfrey
A hug is sometimes all you need. Tough love is necessary from time to time. It might be comforting to know that someone else has been there and done that. All of these and more may be found in this book. These brief articles about stormy relationships, self-esteem, friendship, job, connection, resilience, and finding your path are a compilation of Oprah’s renowned “What I Know For Sure” columns from O Magazine and feel like a lengthy discussion with a dear friend and cover the complete gamut of human emotions. Throughout my life, I’ve relied on them and hope to continue to do so for many more.
Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell
It’s hard to imagine a more heavenly, all-encompassing experience than the one described in this young adult novel about two teenagers who meet on a bus. It’s an excellent reminder for any parents of teenagers. Don’t let the “YA” label put you off. Despite the fact that it’s written for teenagers, the universality of love’s sentiments makes this novel suitable for all ages.
Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
Austen’s masterpiece, hailed as one of the most adored love tales of all time, reminds us that love has been difficult and irritating for millennia. The story follows the five Bennet sisters, all of whom Mrs. Bennet is eager to marry off. Despite my inability to read without seeing Colin Firth portraying practically every character, her works never fail to astonish me with their keen wit, clever insights and timeless feelings. It’s a solid choice.
The Art of Communicating by Thich Nhat Hanh
If communication is the cornerstone of all human interactions, then this book is for everyone, no matter where they are or what chapter they are now in. The revered monk and best-selling author explains the importance of listening with an open mind and expressing one’s own self. My favorite part of his theory was that you absorb the goodness or poison of a discussion like food. This book may help us all learn to communicate in a more compassionate way by providing particular examples for individuals, couples, and families.
How to Be a Person in the World by Heather Havrilesky
Having trouble getting a date to commit? Why do you keep making the same mistakes over and over again? To put it simply: Heather Havrilesky’s got this! My colleagues and I are so familiar with a few of these columns, written by the renowned Ask Polly columnist, that we use them in conversation — “He sounds like the man who wouldn’t take his paintings off the chair so his girlfriend could sit down.” — The counsel in this book is sensible, honest, and from the viewpoint of someone who knows it will all work out.
All About Love by bell hooks
This book by scholar, cultural critic, and feminist bell hooks is a must-have for any list of books about love. My life was forever changed after reading a book that attempted to answer the question “What is love?” by arguing that “the term ‘love’ is most typically defined as a noun, however… we would all love better if we used it as a verb.” Despite the text’s unpleasantly heteronormative slant, this thought-provoking tome is an absolute must-read.
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson
In full transparency, I haven’t read this book, but three of my friends have been “prescribed” it by their different therapists, and all of them have reported that it has been really beneficial to them. Attachment theory is the basis of the book’s methodology, and it claims to help couples break free of ‘demon conversation’ and communicate more successfully. The reviews are overwhelmingly positive. Is it on your TBR list?
The Mathematics Of Love: Patterns, Proofs, And The Search For The Ultimate Equation By Hannah Fry
Love may be a mystery and a slew of other issues. Dr. Hannah Fry’s quantitative approach to dating, marriage, and sex will appeal to readers who are ready to take a more logical approach to these topics. Fry provides readers with techniques and answers to assist them traverse the arduous path of love and passion.
All About Love: New Visions By Bell Hooks
Feminist researcher bell hooks delves deep into the meaning of love in this book. After reflecting on her own quest for connection, she invites readers to abandon the assumption that perfect love is all about romance, sex, and desire in favor of a different way of looking at love: one that emphasizes compassion, unity, and forgiveness.. Her aim is that this kind of compassion may help heal both people and the whole world.