There are a lot of us who have trouble not overthinking things. I’m one of them. Before, I thought it was OK to get lost in your thoughts. The voice in our head makes us think we’re crazy. As soon as it’s done with one thing and is done with the next thing, the voice starts judging other people. I had to look for good books on overthinking at some point.
If you want to know who that voice is, science hasn’t been able to find out yet. Everyone doesn’t know! But philosophers and thinkers have been writing about it for a very long time now. I’ve read a lot of them. They’re also very helpful. I’m in charge of my thoughts now more than ever.
Many people have asked me to share the books that helped me stop overthinking. I’ll do that now. To show you which books are my favorite, I’ll list them here. There are more than 70 great books on my full reading list.
The following three books are my favorite ever. I’ve read these a lot. As for a desert island, these books would be enough for me.
A Manual For Living by Epictetus
A lot of the time, I write about how Stoicism helped me find peace in my life. The Enchiridion, written by Epictetus, is a classic text that I find very interesting. It’s something that I think about a lot.
You can read it in one sitting, and it has more wisdom in each sentence than any book I’ve ever read. You can read it in one sitting. Whether I’ve read it a hundred times or not, I still find new ideas and inspiration in this little guide. It’s very funny. When you keep learning and growing, you start to see things in books in a new way. That’s what I like about reading books again. The content doesn’t change, but you do. You become better.
It’s a good idea to stop everything right now and start reading this book. There is a free version that you can get online. You should buy the paperback version I linked to above if you want to read the book on paper.
The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
Philosophy will help you stop overthinking, no matter what kind or where it comes from. It doesn’t matter what kind or where it comes from. In as long as you’re reading philosophical books about life, you’ll get something out of them.
You say there is a big difference between Western and Eastern philosophy. If you want to live better, both of them have the same goal:
Different cars are used to get there. The Stoics came up with their own reasons for being calm. Eastern philosophies and methodologies, like Buddhism, Zen, Mindfulness, and others, did it by taking reasoning out of the picture. Instead, they looked at the mind. Those are the things that meditation is all about.
You can also learn about eastern philosophy without having to meditate. And that’s what Michael Singer does so well in The Untethered Soul. You can get a lot of different things from this book, like spirituality, meditation skills, and peace of mind.
I think this book is good for people who are skeptical, practical, and open-minded. Good job: Singer does a good job of making things easy to understand, but not making them hard to understand at the same time.
Stillness Speaks by Eckhart Tolle
Overthinking is the subject of these aphorisms. It’s short, to the point, and very useful. Like Singer’s book, Tolle does a great job of explaining the techniques you can use without getting bogged down in the history of the method.
Philosophy has a long history. Most people don’t care about that. We care about how it will be used in the real world. My favorite quote from the book:
When you’re thinking about things in a compulsion, you’re not thinking about what is. You don’t like where you are. Here, right now.
I think the Stoics would agree with this as well, and I think this is a good idea. As soon as your mind is overloaded with thoughts about what you want or what you don’t want, it’s impossible to avoid overthinking. People do that all the time.
Find the courage in yourself to accept life as it is. Don’t wish for things to be different. “Why is this happening to me?” isn’t going to help. I will accept it. Only then can you be free of your thoughts.
The War of Art by Steven Pressfield
Steven Pressfield knows what we go through as artists. To understand and beat the resistance that causes overthinking, The War of Art is a part-journal, part-manifesto. This is how he helps you: He holds your hand as he talks about hard truths and shows how to turn your hidden skills into professional work that you can be proud of. One of the best books for both artists and people who run small businesses.
Poke the Box by Seth Godin
Don’t let yourself get carried away with another long book. Powerful: At 96 pages, this book gives you the confidence and clarity to dive in. It’s good for people who aren’t sure what a good way to start a business is. Seth Godin isn’t afraid to get right to the point with his writing and advice on when and how to stop overthinking. A must-read for anyone who wants to be an entrepreneur or run a business.
The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution by Rosalie Puiman
Rosalie Puiman, a leadership coach, says that overthinking your own role in a disagreement will actually make it more difficult to solve the disagreement successfully.
Puiman says that, of course, it’s good to think about what your point of view is. Yes, it’s good to know how you think the problems can be solved, as well. However, preparation can quickly go too far. It’s bad when you let yourself think too much about a difficult conversation. When you do this, you get stuck in your own thoughts and your own way of looking at things. People might think the other person is just as right as they think they are. This is known as the ‘And-Stance’. You’re right, and they’re right, too. As well as
If you want this to work out and come to an end, you need to know what the other person is going through. Even though you think you know, you don’t, unless you let the other person talk about it.
As well, even if you think you know what you want to say and what the best solution is, you might not see some great ways out of the argument that come up during the conversation. Brain power is being used to make sure you say the right words, but there’s not enough left to be fully present in the moment.
People talk about how they see things while you think about what to say next. And that’s not where the best way to go will be found. Those will show up in the moment, in the conversation, and in the way you interact with the person you are with. In Puiman’s words: “By not being present, you really stop yourself from finding those unexpected, unforeseen solutions that come up when you really listen to the other person’s point of view.”
The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution has a practical, easy-to-learn approach to communication called PAUSE that you can use when you want to stop overthinking your communication problems.