Top 15 Books About Insecurity Updated 05 /2024

There are many things in your life that can go wrong if you have a lot of insecurities or have low self-esteem. How does it make you think?

You are who you are.

What you believe.

It's up to you.

It doesn't matter if people love and like you for who you are.

Whether or not you'll be good enough.

If you have insecurities, you might not be able to grow as a person or reach your full potential. It also stops you from becoming the real person that you are.

It's time to learn about 14 of the best books on overcoming insecurity so that you can live your life to the fullest and be more courageous and real.

Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It – Leslie Becker-Phelps, Ph.D.

You will not feel better if your loved ones change their behavior, no matter how they act.

The first step on the way to trusting others is to start by trusting yourself first. The key to feeling safe in any kind of relationship is in your mind, not in the actions of other people.

This book will show you how to get over your fear of having a bad relationship.

Sabotage: How Insecurity Destroys Everything – Trinity Jordan

Being insecure is like being held down by other people's thoughts and feelings.

Break out! Learn how to deal with insecurity and become more confident.

Feeling insecure is self-sabotage, because it stops you from becoming the best version of yourself that you can be. If you don't use your positive points, people will focus on the things that aren't so good about you instead.

Tame Your Emotions: Understand Your Fears, Handle Your Insecurities, Get Stress-Proof, And Become Adaptable – Zoe McKey

Can being insecure serve a good purpose? A lot of the time it doesn't help you.

Insecurity can make you want to do better for a short time. Because of this, long-term insecurity can make you a slave.

Any animal on this planet has a powerful ability: the ability to change.

Yet, being insecure is making it harder for you to adapt and deal with whatever life throws at you (creating the perfect ground for manipulators to take advantage of you).

You need to know more about yourself so that you can walk with confidence and have peace of mind.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It’s All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff Series) – Richard Carlson

Do you ever wonder why so many people bother to worry? You don't feel very safe. Because of all of your worries and insecurity, would you be able to stand?

It turns out that worrying and being afraid gives you a false sense of control.

Beautiful: Being aware is a good thing. Yet, imagining bad things about the future can keep you from moving forward, making it hard for you to get up and go.

If you read Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, you'll change your life. It's also a classic in the self-help book genre. How to stop being afraid, how to deal with stress, and how to reduce your anxiety through small changes every day will be shown in this book.

The Wisdom of Insecurity: A Message for an Age of Anxiety – Alan W. Watts

You don't always see what you think you see. Often, we only see what we want to see.

Feeling insecure makes you think and see things in a different way.

How do I know if I'm safe when I feel that way?

 

Are you better able to face what you think is true (something bad)? Or do you try to accept the truth (something good)?

People might surprise you with how hard they try to prove what they think.

If I were good enough, I would be able to show it! "I'm sure my friends will let me down; wait and see."

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are – Brené Brown

Insecurity can make you feel like a pigeon that doesn't fly, doesn't raise its beak from the ground, and never sees the sky.

Do you know what you want out of life? Is that true?

All but a very small number of people who don't live a happy life don't know what it is that they want. However, people who are insecure know what they want but are afraid to do anything about it. Because of that, life can seem like a never-ending pain. This is why.

Every person has a story. What is your background?

You act and behave the way you do because of the stories you tell yourself. By changing your story, you can live a more confident and happy life.

When It’s Never About You: The People-Pleaser’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Health, Happiness and Personal Freedom – Ilene S. Cohen, Ph.D.

Insecurity makes you say "yes" a lot more often than you should. Are you aware of this?

Have you been hypnotized to think that if you aren't perfect, you aren't loved by your family?

Change that thought; always hypnotize yourself to see yourself as you are (unique and precious). They don't care less if you say no to them. Those who truly love you love you even more when you give them the chance to show off their best selves.

Almost Already: Insecurities, Failures and Other Fun Things Nobody Likes to Talk About – Jonathan Tony

If you're reading this, it's likely that you feel insecure and are looking for a way to change your mind.

Take a look at this book and have fun and enjoy yourself at the same time! You can see? Those things we take too seriously, make us less intelligent (momentarily).

Is it fun to be afraid?

A lot of times. And it's also likely that you haven't even thought about breaking free from the spell of feeling insecure and laughing at it.

The more you tell yourself that you're not good enough, the easier your life will be.

It means that you have a different plan if you don't like what I did.

Free of Me: Why Life Is Better When It’s Not about You – Sharon Hodde Miller

The person you talk to the most is yourself. Insecurities aren't coming from who you are or what you can or can't do. They're coming from that conversation.

This is a trick the brain plays on people who are afraid of being judged. It's also true that you're not the only person who spends most of the time thinking about himself or herself.

You think you're a wizard because you're afraid.

It's clear to me what you think of me; you don't like what you see.

The person in front of you, on the other hand, is thinking about how they act, how they look, and how they seem to you.

 

You like to read (consciously) other people's minds and bodies and figure out what they think. What they think about you, not what they think about everyone else. This is different from what they think in general. There's a mistake! They don't think about you, they think about themselves!

The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It – Valerie Young

Have you ever thought to yourself, "I'm in over my head, and they're going to find out"? Is that true? If so, you're not alone.

Millions of successful people around the world believe that they aren't as smart or capable as other people think they are. They live in fear of being found out.

Feelings like you're not good enough have a name: the impostor syndrome. As a good thing, there is a way out.

Love Me, Don’t Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships – Michelle Skeen PsyD, Wendy T. Behary, LCSW

This book is a must-read for anyone who is afraid of their looks.

Feeling insecure most likely comes from when you were a child. Being a parent is the most difficult job in the world, but it is worth it. It is important to balance the attention and love you give to yourself with the attention and love you give your kids.

Perhaps your parents are good people, but they didn't know how to find the right balance. You've been left with the fear that no one will stay in your life for too long.

Plus, your memories of the past might be distorted by your feelings as a child.

So Long, Insecurity: You’ve Been a Bad Friend to Us – Beth Moore

Your life, whether you think about it or not, is a lot influenced by what you see around you. The way society looks at people, it makes you feel like you're not good enough at least sometimes. … you act as if you (or anyone else) were ever going to be perfect.

You should learn how to think positive so that you can easily choose where your attention goes.

Who does it matter more to? How you look or what is going on inside your head.

What is more important to you: living a happy and simple life, or having people admire you?

I Need Your Love – Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead – Byron Katie, Michael Katz

It's important to feel connected and to be surrounded by people who love and respect you. However, overvaluing the love of someone who doesn't love you back can be bad for you.

A successful marriage isn't built on needing each other, but on completing each other, working together, and treating each other with respect.

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